I have a confession….

I dont “transition” easily. There – I said it.

Maybe some of you can relate? The two key times of the day when transitioning can become a challenge for me are leaving the house in the morning and then coming home in the evening. These two events are simple enough… but many days I still feel “harried”. In the morning I get up early and immediately start fussing about – starting laundry, emptying garbages, preparing breakfast, packing lunches, feeding the dog, etc…. normal, everyday crap that millions of people do. And truthfully -its not that I have any trouble doing them – its that I get so wrapped up in accomplishing these tasks (ones that could easily go undone if necessary) that I allow my demeanor to become stressed and chaotic. Some days by the time I drop my daughter at school she (and her father) perceive that mommy is “stressed”. Not exactly a smooth, calming start to the day, huh?

Then in the late afternoon/evening it can be even worse. Somehow, everyday I manage to come home with a car full of ??? I dont even know what all – backpack, work bags, lunch boxes, groceries, target bags (oh boy!), dry cleaning, etc. So just getting in the door takes several trips. The dog is always waiting – not so patiently- to go out, dinner needs to be fixed, that laundry from the morning never got folded, recycling/garbages need to go out, packages at the front door (okay so I sort of look forward to that part), dishes in the sink. Again – routine crap I know you are all dealing with. But, nonetheless, it often results in a mom/wife that seems aggitated when she walks in the door. Not exaclty a pleasnat way to greet your family, huh?

Now, in my defense, if you give me 15 minutes then I can settle in and “act normal” again. These transitions I’m describing are short-lived. But for these 2 brief periods of the day, if I’m not careful, I get myself all in a “dither” and then regret making my family feel as though I am unhappy. Those of you who may experience anxiety or Type A personality traits that cause you to act like I am describing will know that this does not in any way mean I am unhappy! Anxiety/Stress/whatever you want to call it does not correlate to happiness or unhappiness. These are separate things. But – admittedly, thats hard for others to see and understand sometimes.

So – what to do? I am an organized gal and I beleive I am pretty good at organizing my time and tasks. I suspect the problem in the morning is simply trying to do too much. And in the evening I should be better at letting all of my “to-do’s” just wait a bit. I can get to them later, right? In theory this makes 100% good sense to me – but in action I am a whirling dervish, trying to get 10 things done at once so I can “relax”.  Although I’m not really a good “relaxer” if we are still confessing? Developing a morning meditation practice might do wonders for me (something I’ve blogged about here http://fitandfabyogi.com/?p=129) but I cant seem to make it happen. I’m too busy doing relatively unimportant tasks that I can’t – WON’T – make time for it. The yogi in my knows how pathetic that is.

The good news is that I’ve only recently recognized this pattern. So now perhaps I can learn to manage my transitions better. I can focus on the things that I do to trigger bad reactions and maybe modify my schedule to avoid them. Time to develop some new patterns and learn to better ease into and out of my day. Wish me luck!

I’d love to hear if you can relate to my confession? Anybody else need help with the daily transitions in their life?

 

Sky Spa

My daughter and I have the most interesting chats before bed – many of you moms may already know that this “sleepy” time right before they doze off is often when you will get to hear whats really on their minds and in their hearts. Its a great time to connect and have a few meaningful moments at the end of the day. This is when my Hannah and I verbalize our gratefuls each night. And sometimes we talk about silly things too – like the other night. Somehow we determined that airlines should figure out a way to offer manicures and pedicures while you are flying. They could take out maybe just 2 seats in the back of the plane and offer these services on a pre-paid sign up basis. I mean – if the flight is a couple of hours you certainly have the time to get it done. And since you cant really do much else – its a great time to pamper yourself and let those nails dry! Sure they would give up the revenue of those seats but at least a portion of that lost income would be recouped by charging for the services. I bet you could get $25.00 for a manicure and $40.00 for a pedicure if you marketed it right! If only I owned a commercial airline ladies – we could Spa in the Sky!

On another note – is anyone very familiar with Tapping? Tapping is also known as EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. I first heard about it through Marie Forleo who I have mentioned on the blog before. As I have said previously, I really love her and if she mentions something she advocates – I listen. She interviewed Nick Ortner about Tapping on one of her Weekly Q and A Tuesday videos. You can check that out here. http://www.marieforleo.com/2013/04/tapping-eft/ Nick has a book out called The Tapping Solution – A Revolutionary System for Stress Free Living (available on Amazon of course).

According to Wikipedia – here is what Tapping is:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a form of counseling intervention that draws on various theories of alternative medicine including acupunctureneuro-linguistic programmingenergy medicine, andThought Field Therapy. It is best known through Gary Craig’s EFT Handbook, published in the late 1990s, and related books and workshops by a variety of teachers. During a typical EFT session, the person will focus on a specific issue while tapping on “end points of the body’s energy meridians“. This is thought by practitioners to treat a wide variety of physical and psychological disorders, and has the advantage of being a simple, self-administered form of therapy.[1]

Other than what I have researched on the internet I don’t have any real experience with Tapping. But, from my yoga training and background I do believe that the energy meridians in the body can be very powerful and if you can access those via acupuncture, yoga postures, Reiki, tapping or any other method you can affect major change in the energetic as well as physical body. I’m curious to try Tapping to relieve anxiety. There are lots of YouTube videos out there if you want to take a quick lesson with me.

Lastly – check out this guy. On the way home from the kennel last weekend. So happy to be headed home with the fresh breeze in his face. Our little “Gizmo” makes us smile!

I'm free!

I’m free!

 

Question – Have any of your ever tried Tapping? If so – I’d love to hear your thoughts! I think it takes a pretty open mind to explore some of these concepts but it never hurts to try new things, right?

Remodeling-again!

Anyone ever done a “remodel” in their home while still living in it? I know many of you have. And I bet most of you handled it better than I do. You see, over the course of a 19 (soon to be 20!) year marriage we’ve had the good fortune of “improving” our home 3 times. All three times we have lived in the house during the work. And all three times I LOVE it when its done and HATE it while its in process.

IMG_1370


 

 

 

This go around we are really only doing two smallish projects. One is creating a small mud room and the second is enclosing in an upstairs porch. Nothing that would prevent us from the necessities of our day to day lives while the work is completed. Supposedly, it will only take about 6 weeks which, I know from experience, means 8-10 weeks – but even that’s not so bad. The current schedule looks a bit like this – we take our daughter to school at 8:00 am so we have the house to ourselves in the morning which is really helpful. That way – the early morning routine isnt interrupted and our daughter does not have awaken to the sounds of hammers and saws. But as soon as I get back from the school run the carpenters arrive and begin the days work. Generally, they start to wrap up at 4:00 and are gone by about 4:30 – again nice since Hannah gets home from school about 4:00 pm. Now let me say that the crew we are working with is FABULOUS – I cannot say enough good things about them. They have done all the remodel projects we have undertaken at our 2 homes, in addition to several small commercial jobs at our offices. The construction company is owned by a dear friend of ours and we love and trust him completely. His staff is meticulous, the work is excellent and they are very “in-tune” to keeping things as clean as construction will allow. If you are in Central Florida and need a referral please let me know and I will put you in touch with RF Mannarino Contracting. You will love Bobby and his staff. Truly, they are as good as it gets.

Even still – for the next 6-10 weeks I will have to muster all the positive energy I can to keep my stress under control. Mainly its the dust and messiness that gets me unglued. The hubby and I both work from home a fair amount and despite this I can live with the in and out off all the traffic, I can live with the constant noise and chatter of the crew, and I can live with the driveway and garage being overtaken with trucks and debris. But the dust and dirt send me over the edge. It doesn’t help that I’m Type A to begin with. I am obsessive about my “nest” and keep it cleaner and more tidy than is considered normal or average. Everyday when the job is closed up for the night I start wiping down counters, vacumming floors and trying my best to clean up at least the commonly used areas so we can enjoy dinner and some family time. There is a layer of dust and dirt that I can’t even wipe or suck up until the job is DONE – but I have to try and get at least the top layers cleaned off each day before I can prepare dinner ( I rarely cook – but you know what I mean :-)), shower, change into Pj’s and finally relax.

IMG_1371

 

I read a ton of blogs and know of several design/remodel bloggers that I love. These creative and carfty folks seems to thrive on “redoing” and tolerate the mess and chaos with style and grace. I WISH I knew how they did that! The yogi in me hates to admit it but I ENVY thier ability to live and enjoy life admist the clutter and dirt. I remind myself how fortunate we are to be able to afford these improvements and I know from experience how immensely happy I will be with the results. But let me tell you – in the interim – its a struggle! So far – I’ve made it through 2.5 days! A small victory but at least we are underway. There is no turing back now – the finish line is on the horizon – albeit a ways away!

If you’ve got any tips for me I all ears. In the meantime – I’m going to try and “suck it up” and focus on gratitude! That generally does the trick!

 

IMG_1374

 

 

Question of the day:

Have any of you ever lived through a home remodel? What as the best/worst aspect for you?

IMG_1372